The decision about whether to spawn or not won’t truly feel like a choice until there’s no longer a taboo against women who don’t want to be moms.By Angelina Chapin Huffington Post
November 02 2016
A Marie Claire piece published
last week presented readers with one of society’s biggest taboos: parents who regret having their kids. One woman in the article describes motherhood as a “life-altering mistake” and a “middle-class prison.” The mostly career-oriented interviewees resent that changing diapers has kept them from writing books and describe themselves as “not mother material.” Facebook groups with names such as “I Regret Having Children”
and books such as The Mother Bliss Lie: Regretting Motherhood
prove these women are not alone.
As you can imagine, the article has proved controversial. You’re probably feeling a little worked up yourself. Some commenters have absurdly equated the motherly regret to “child abuse,” according
to Marie Claire.
More reasonably, many have called the perspective “extreme” – sure, the first five years of parenting are harried but after that you’ve only got yourself to blame for a sub par career.
Of course, most mothers don’t wholeheartedly wish they never had children (sleeping in is cool but you know, so is raising an actual human). But talking about the ones who do helps dispel the myth that every woman should find satisfaction in raising kids.
The decision about whether to spawn or not won’t truly feel like a choice until there’s no longer a taboo against women who don’t want to be moms. So long as we consider the childless life an inferior one, not raising a family will always feel more like rebellion than an acceptable choice.
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