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Zainab
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« on: August 18, 2012, 04:30:17 AM »

Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all?

What day would we acquire an answer such as: That girl there with the short kinky hair; that short and stocky lady; those sistas with dark skin and full lips or that fat woman?

What about that woman with a heart of gold who has integrity to fill the world?

The mirror is left incapable of any answer. It is easy to understand the mirror’s difficulty in fingering that BEAUTIFUL person.  A mirror is designed to show or express an individual’s reflection, a most superficial aspect of any being. What would it take for that mirror to peer through that façade to see what really makes someone beautiful or not? What would it take for that mirror to put the true you on display? What would it take for that mirror to portray you as beautiful?

BEAUTY is as rare a commodity as Red Diamonds. We have lost the true definition of beauty. The real concept of beauty has been removed and replaced with a new face… literally. Beauty interpreted by many now is a Eurocentric-conditioned idea of “Physical attractiveness” -- Straight noses, fair, light or white skin, long flowing hair, long legs, small waist, narrow hips and a slim body. None of these attributes contribute to real beauty. Because of this shift I am left to re-evaluate our concepts of beauty... Gone are the days when someone who is called beautiful feels confident that it refers to her integrity and character.

They say that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Now, how can you behold anything ‘beautiful’ with eyes and minds of corruption and a hidden disdain for the good moral fiber of an individual? Those simple niceties like honesty and integrity that wills some to show kindness and compassion, respectfulness and caring, responsibility and trustworthiness are no longer the guiding principles by which we choose our friends, spouse or interact with society at large. We choose with our eyes first; eyes that have always been veiled by an anti-African ideal.

Claiming to be pro-African because you chose to be with a dark-skinned black man or woman is moot. When we cannot get our fantasy, we settle for someone that is closer to the ideal. The options are limitless if you know how substitution works. Dark skinned but with straight nose -- close to the ideal; brown eyes but kinky hair -- close to the ideal; short and stocky but light brown -- close to the ideal; dark skin but slim -- close to the ideal; dark or light skin with hair extensions -- close to the ideal. The substitutions go on.

Some of us try earnestly to be perceived as beautiful with no idea of what it takes to really be beautiful. We buy into the Europeanized ideas of beauty. In doing this, we take huge leaps away from blackness and do not see the need for integrity. We begin to remove ourselves from blackness. We burn our hair and scalp with hot combs and ‘relaxers’ to unlock the kinks, we weave, braid or even ‘lock’ our hair to mimic long flowing tresses. We become so preoccupied with trying to fit the ‘standard’ that we lose sight of what really needs to be fixed -- how we view ourselves.
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Belle
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« Reply #1 on: September 21, 2013, 02:38:30 AM »

Of lately I have been questioning myself on the defination of beauty- what are the characteristics of being beautiful? This answered a lot. Thank you Zainab  Smiley
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KiwNak
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« Reply #2 on: October 18, 2013, 11:16:52 PM »

Oh, oh the substitution list. So my secret is out. You get one close to the conditioned ideal and you work as hard to get them even closer. You compensate for their blackness any chance you get.
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